Still not working

Apologies for the lack of posts lately, but sleep is still going terribly, terribly wrong since transitioning to the big bed and we are at a loss. We've tried EVERYTHING. Since transitioning Edie to her twin bed, she has started waking many, many times in the night and she isn't trying to be cute or funny. She seems legitimately freaked out and 95% of the time she doesn't even get out of the bed. She goes to bed happily at bedtime, but she wakes up crying most of the times (starting only 2-3 hours after falling asleep), and while frequently we only have to rub her back and sooth her back to sleep, many other times it takes 5-10 minutes of holding her and coaxing her back to the bed while she sobs and begs for random things like going downstairs, saying she's "all done here". We never took the crib down and we have tried asking if she'd rather sleep in her crib, but she insists she doesn't. That said, every now and again she DOES want to sleep in the crib. But on those nights, she will always wake a few hours later and ask to be tucked into her big girl bed. I feel like pulling my hair out!

The only thing I can guess at is that we are confusing her by keeping both the crib AND the new bed in her room? But then, should we take the twin bed down and try again in a few months or remove the crib and hope for the best? Or maybe she's coincidentally started having bad dreams at the same time as the transfer? She's also waking from her naps at daycare on occasion upset and crying, which is new and Jen feels pretty sure that it's a bad dream when it happens at daycare. We've tried having big long talks about the bed and we've tried not making a big deal about it, neither work. We have a nightlight and talked about how it would keep her safe at night. She bought it, but it hasn't helped. We haven't had a single good night in that bed since we set it up and I feel about at my wits end because I can't figure out a consistent way to handle it. If I thought she was just being dramatic, we could do some serious sleep training, but it doesn't seem like fakery to me. Except when it clearly is. But that's only 5% of the time it seems.

Aaand, to top it all off, she's supposed to sleep at Jeff's parent's house this weekend, and then my parents' house for a night and THEN she comes home on Monday night to spend 3 nights with just Jeff because I am going on a business trip. SCREWED. Hanyvays. Suggestions are welcome.